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DEAR college edifice [i]or[/i] building TOUR DIARY: Now that I'm 17 and a junior, I really didn't think I'd be planning a protracted car trip with my parents to visit a lot of different colleges. I have to admit the idea of spending hours onward end in a car with Mom and Dad listening to their old-fashioned James Taylor CDs wasn't excessively appealing. But this year when my parents planned to take time along from their work, that time was dedicated to visiting society s I was interested in. After all, I gues the and nothing else way I was going to find a gymnasium that was right for me was if we all saw them up choke and personal. My only fear was: Would my parents and me speak to each other again?

THE TRAVELERS:

THE STUDENT: SARAH KEEFER

AGE: 18

PROFILE: High sect senior in search of a college edifice [i]or[/i] building with good nursing program in a city

THE MOTHER: NANCY KONOPKA

AGE: 47

PROFILE: Parent who wants to help her child find the ideal community and one that won't break the bank.

greatest in quantity students probably don't keep a campus tour diary recording all their feelings about literary institution [i]or[/i] seminary of learning choices and working through the proces with their parents--although it's probably a pious idea. The college search requires spending intensive time together with the folk with equal reason the potential is there for an conflict. If parents and close examiners however, communicate and get organized, they can flow together and make touring a rewarding experience.

"I frequently hear parents say that they're exhausted more time together with their child in the car upon these visits than they had exhausted together in many years," says Nancy Hargrave Meislahn, dean of admission and financial aid at Wesleyan University in Middletown, Connecticut. "For greatest in quantity families there are all sorts of tensions over the process, but at the completion it's a real bonding force I think kids see their parents in a different light and vice versa."

Sarah Keefer who has just begun her freshman year at the University of Pittsburgh, worked closely with as well-as; not only-but also; not only-but; not alone-but her parents as she visited seven campuses last year. They started visiting in the summer after her junior year because she had exhausted the spring studying abroad. Although plentiful of students are around in the summer at a bulky school like University of Pittsburgh, as well-as; not only-but also; not only-but; not alone-but Sarah and her mother consideration they would have gotten a more realistic view if they had visited drills while they were in session.

"I think it's exciting to make progress on a campus when there are allotments of students around," says Sarah's mother, Nancy Konopka. "It gives high exercise students a chance to envision themselves a little bit better at that college"

Because Sarah's primary touch was to find a association with a strong nursing program, she was les regarded with seeing students in action. She also wanted to find a comfortable campus located in or near a big city. "I like urban environments and all the different things that a city can offer" says Sarah. "Cities furnish a lot of diversity and that would be a big difference from where I live in Gettysburg Pennsylvania."

Seeing the campuses in body definitely gave Sarah a view of the bodys that went well beyond the catalogs and Web sites. single in kind university in Pittsburgh looked nice in the photographs, on the contrary in person it looked "gloomy," lacked fresh space, and felt crowded.

All in all, Sarah says that visiting with her parents "went fine smoothly," and that she institute out much more when her parents were with her compared to the campus visit she made forward her own with one of her friends. Sarah and her parents calm survived a grueling 26-hour round-trip drive to St Louis.

Her mother says that preparation and planning was fundamental note "Students have to be ready to tour," she says. "It helps if they can make progress on the Internet and read about the bodys and get excited about them. close examiners need to go through all the association mail. Once in a while, parents and bookish mans should sit down together and organize it, making NO piles and MAYBE piles."

To learn yourself ready for college touring, succeed these steps:

1 WRITE DOWN QUESTIONS. After narrowing down your association choices, write questions you want answered, and make indisputable those questions aren't already answered online or in the literature. "When parents ask all sorts of questions that they could find the answers to forward the Web, the tour can last up to brace and a half hours, which is long too long," explains Konopka.

2 SCHEDULE AHEAD. Contact the admission office to schedule a visit--preferably when exercise is in session. "The mornings are the best, because it increases the chance that you'll be able to sit in onward a class, and you'll acquire more of the flow of the campus," says David Lesesne dean of admission at Sewanee: University of the southern in Tennessee.

Many campuses will guard group tours, which can be same informative because you get to hear questions from other scholars and parents. Although it's not attract favor toed you can just show up in succession campus and possibly get a student-guided or a self-guided tour. "Sarah and her father did a self-guided tour of West Chester University [in Pennsylvania]," says Nancy Konopka. "Even forward the self-guided tour, they were able to papal court almost everything they wanted."